There’s no substitute or fast track for grieving. Seeing a medium, getting Reiki healing, counseling, etc are all good coping strategies BUT grief requires actual grieving. Grieving happens in stages and the stages don’t always happen in the order listed. Some psychologists use a 5 stage model and others use a 7 stage model that expands on the 5 stages. The stages are: 1. Shock & Denial. 2. Pain & Guilt. 3. Anger & Bargaining. 4. Depression. 5. The Upward Turn. 6. Reconstruction. 7. Acceptance. These stages really don’t happen in order at all and they often loop repeatedly. Sometimes you might experience all the stages in one day or experience 2 or 3 stages simultaneously and other times you will go through one of the stages for an extended time. You may come to see me for Mediumship or Reiki while you’re going through any of these stages or at any time after you’ve moved past the process. But today I want to address coming in for mediumship while you’re experiencing grief from the death of a loved one.
In the anger & bargaining stage there is something called “searching,” where the energy of the deceased person’s presence in your life begins to fade. This is an empty feeling that some people will try to fill up with repetitive readings so I see it a lot by default. When this happens, spirit will withdraw because it’s not good for you to constantly search for them. At this point, I’m going to start redirecting your focus and the focus of your readings back to acceptance and living the life that remains for yourself. I may compassionately refuse to do a mediumship reading for you for a few months. Sometimes Spirit will tell me when you come in that they’ve been withdrawn or are going to begin to withdraw for this reason.
It means that whether you feel it or not, you’re ready to let them go. It’s not a punishment for being unwilling to let go or for being angry. Spirit will withdraw because they love you. So that you can heal. Often we resist/search because we know that the depression stage is setting in and we don’t want to go through it. Once you let go and move into a place of consistent acceptance, your precious loved one will start showing up again in happier ways and you will enjoy their energy in a new light. From my experience, I’ve witnessed that this stage is a critical part of grieving that people resist. I’ve been there myself.
Searching is an avoidance behavior that naturally arises when we’re resistant to letting go. Its your shadow self. It’s normal but it’s not healthy to get stuck in a searching pattern. In fact, it can destroy you in more ways than one.
You have to be careful when you’re visiting psychics and mediums because some of them will take full advantage of you while you are going through this vulnerable time. They will let you come in as often as you want as long as you’re shelling out cash every time. They will tell you the same information over and over or give you motivational speeches while you’re desperate for any nugget of a sign that your loved one is still near. When you’re going through this kind of thing, if it gets to a detrimental point, I feel it so strongly and my own integrity will not energetically align with it.
I’m happy to continue seeing you for energy healing or about readings for how to manifest and initiate life changes to advance your own purpose for being alive. If I tell you to wait on mediumship, please understand that it’s not a rejection of you personally. You aren’t doing anything wrong or upsetting me. It’s because I care about your well being as much as your loved one does and as much as I want you to care about your own healing. I’m here to support you and place you on a path of self empowerment. I’m not here to enable you or take advantage of your vulnerability. I do this for money because as a Reiki Master and Shamanic Practitioner, I’m a firm believer in energetic exchange. I’ve experienced the imbalance of giving too much, causing harm to myself. I’ve learned to love myself the most and I encourage you to do the same. But I don’t do this for THE money. I made an agreement with Spirit to use my gifts for healing myself and others and that will always be my number one priority. Integrity and authenticity is my mantra. The rest falls into place as it is meant to do.
In the anger & bargaining stage there is something called “searching,” where the energy of the deceased person’s presence in your life begins to fade. This is an empty feeling that some people will try to fill up with repetitive readings so I see it a lot by default. When this happens, spirit will withdraw because it’s not good for you to constantly search for them. At this point, I’m going to start redirecting your focus and the focus of your readings back to acceptance and living the life that remains for yourself. I may compassionately refuse to do a mediumship reading for you for a few months. Sometimes Spirit will tell me when you come in that they’ve been withdrawn or are going to begin to withdraw for this reason.
It means that whether you feel it or not, you’re ready to let them go. It’s not a punishment for being unwilling to let go or for being angry. Spirit will withdraw because they love you. So that you can heal. Often we resist/search because we know that the depression stage is setting in and we don’t want to go through it. Once you let go and move into a place of consistent acceptance, your precious loved one will start showing up again in happier ways and you will enjoy their energy in a new light. From my experience, I’ve witnessed that this stage is a critical part of grieving that people resist. I’ve been there myself.
Searching is an avoidance behavior that naturally arises when we’re resistant to letting go. Its your shadow self. It’s normal but it’s not healthy to get stuck in a searching pattern. In fact, it can destroy you in more ways than one.
You have to be careful when you’re visiting psychics and mediums because some of them will take full advantage of you while you are going through this vulnerable time. They will let you come in as often as you want as long as you’re shelling out cash every time. They will tell you the same information over and over or give you motivational speeches while you’re desperate for any nugget of a sign that your loved one is still near. When you’re going through this kind of thing, if it gets to a detrimental point, I feel it so strongly and my own integrity will not energetically align with it.
I’m happy to continue seeing you for energy healing or about readings for how to manifest and initiate life changes to advance your own purpose for being alive. If I tell you to wait on mediumship, please understand that it’s not a rejection of you personally. You aren’t doing anything wrong or upsetting me. It’s because I care about your well being as much as your loved one does and as much as I want you to care about your own healing. I’m here to support you and place you on a path of self empowerment. I’m not here to enable you or take advantage of your vulnerability. I do this for money because as a Reiki Master and Shamanic Practitioner, I’m a firm believer in energetic exchange. I’ve experienced the imbalance of giving too much, causing harm to myself. I’ve learned to love myself the most and I encourage you to do the same. But I don’t do this for THE money. I made an agreement with Spirit to use my gifts for healing myself and others and that will always be my number one priority. Integrity and authenticity is my mantra. The rest falls into place as it is meant to do.
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